A year and a half ago, God began giving me more confidence to share my faith online. As I began sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ through social media, I soon noticed a very prominent speaker preaching the Gospel and encouraging the youth generation in their faith in Christ. This popular speaker was shockingly beautiful, smart and anointed to ignite a fire within the hearts of the youth for Christ through her ministry named Kingdom Ambassadors. Some of you reading this may know her as Caitlin Nunez.

It soon came to my attention that I seemed to have a problem with this person and as God increased my influence online I began to increasingly compare myself to this young lady who did not even know me. Concluding that something just didn’t seem right about her, I grew more and more suspicious and sceptical about this person and their relationship with God. Each time I saw them post a photo or a tweet on my newsfeed I would scoff. I felt very uneasy and uncomfortable about this young lady’s posts and concluded that her ministry was for personal gain and self-exaltation rather than for Christ. My heart harboured resentment towards this innocent girl who sought to kindle a love for God within others.

 One day, I was led to pray and was suddenly confronted by her face that abruptly appeared before me in a vision. God wants me to pray for her deliverance from vanity and pride” I concluded smugly. My thoughts were swiftly interrupted by the Holy Spirit who rebuked me saying:
“You are jealous”

Excuse me? I laughed “Jealous?  No I am not, I don’t FEEL jealous at all God”

“You are jealous, do not be deceived by your feelings” The Holy Spirit said. “This negative feeling is not discernment it is jealousy”

In that moment I truly had to support my jaw from dropping to the floor and really digest what Holy Spirit had just said to me.

I realised that this uncomfortable feeling was the result of comparing myself to this woman of God. I had accused her of having pride in her heart and yet it was revealed to me that pride was actually in mine. Comparison had become my companion and together we had opened many negative doors that had poisoned my perception of the girl and clouded my vision of who this person really was.

I repented and truly began to pray earnestly for this individual. With all of my heart I began covering her in prayer and witnessed my feelings considerably soften towards her. I had been jealous of her portion, popularity and influence that God had given to her. Comparison had robbed me of celebrating my sister in Christ’s success and more importantly God’s work that He was doing on earth. The more I had compared myself to this girl the more I had made the work of God a fleshly and carnal conquest. God had opened my eyes and I now longed for her to impact more people and touch those who perhaps I never could.

Over the year, I grew to love this lady from a distance and God began to place timely and accurate words of encouragement upon my heart during prayer to share with her when necessary through private direct messages. God’s love led me to financially sow into her ministry and continually pray for her fruitfulness. A year later, she reached out and asked me out to lunch! In her own words she said “I can tell that your heart is so pure.” I remember reading her message and laughing because if it had not been for Jesus Christ, the condition of my heart would have still remained a sinful mess.

The next year during 2016, a similar comparison scenario occurred when my boyfriend told me that he had considered being with someone else before we had officially decided to be together. He didn’t have to finish his sentence. I was simply fixated by the fact he had considered being with anyone but myself. Despite the fact I had definitely considered other candidates before entering our union; he had no license to do so in my eyes and I demanded to know who it was. When he told me who this person was I began to compare myself almost instantaneously. To add insult to injury she was in our friendship circle and my partner told me that he had actually been attacked with lustful dreams about this person too. I frantically counted all of my personal qualities on my fingers that I esteemed far greater in comparison to her. This was a common comfort when I compared myself; I would find flaws in the other person and thrive on their inferiority. However this time it felt as though I was grappling for match sticks. This girl was incredibly beautiful, her skin was flawless, hair simply fierce, her boldness for God jaw dropping and her voice had the ability to usher any soul into worship.

 In many regards I couldn’t really see much difference between the two of us and this aggravated me because I wanted to be better. Comparison had taught me that her beauty was not only a threat but that it also stole and robbed me of my own. As I bowed my head in disappointment the devil gave me his shoulder to weep on, snarling “you know if you weren’t with your boyfriend he definitely would have chosen her instead.” Hopelessly punched in the face by this comment, I sat and received the blow, allowing bruises to form as I sat there and accepted this lie as the raw truth.

I began to choke on the poisonous fruit that comparison was birthing into my life. I would think about how she would say things compared to how I would, analyse both our laughs, compare our cuteness and observe how we were both received by others. I thought about her potentially marrying my partner until I made myself cry. “Well, I can find someone better if it happens” I consoled myself. “Lauren this, Lauren that” every time I heard her name I would feel resentment brewing and an inferiority complex beginning to spawn.

The truth about comparison is that it promises to be the fuel to drive you forward to success but in fact it is a thief that exhausts you and leaves you ever dissatisfied, unqualified and void of peace.
When we choose comparison we either fall into pride or insecurity; two spirits that incessantly feed off of each other and systematically destroy their victims. However, Jesus was calling me to choose Him. I could either cling to comparison or Christ Jesus my hope. God purged this toxic insecurity from my heart and actually told me to become close friends with this girl. She is now a sister to me that I love so dearly and constantly show off on my social media singing. I am without comparison, I am not threatened.

Be wary to not grow so accustomed to comparison in your life that you stand in agreement with the demon telling you that this is just a part of you you are.

Understand that seeds in your heart are constantly being sown, however you have the choice to water or uproot them.
I had added fertiliser, water and given much attention to a garden of lies that had formed in my mind. However, God in His mercy shut down this pity party. It’s time to shut down yours.

1. Scrolling on Instagram and making yourself miserable due to other people’s lives is watering that seed.

2. Constantly checking and comparing your followers on social media and Youtube to others is watering that seed.

3. Comparing your preaching, friends, boldness, confidence and ministry to another person’s is watering that seed.

4. Peering into other people’s relationships and comparing it to yours is watering that seed.

5. Incessantly looking at people’s internships, job offers, university grades and businesses ventures whilst condemning yourself for your clear lack of the above, is watering that seed

 Your revelation of God’s love is not complete if you compare yourself because it means that you do not know your worth through the eyes of your creator. This was evident when I first entered into a relationship with my current partner who I resented due to the fact God was using Him in miraculous ways that I could not see in my own life. I therefore did not love myself or him at all. God was using me in amazing ways prophetically in many people’s lives but because I did not see healing miracles like my boyfriend, rivalry sparked within my heart. He knew people around him were jealous of his healing testimonies and in all honesty I was one of them. Why was I not being used to heal the sick yet? However, I did not understand that whatever my partner was doing God was using him as a pattern for what He wanted to also establish in my own life. I now see miracles, but God asks me, without such signs and wonders in your life would you still believe that I love you? Would you continually compare? Would you be content with your portion?

 Lisa Bevere once said God uniquely created your DNA and knit your frame in secret so He could surprise the world. Comparison cheats us of this. God’s intention was to make us in secret and to then reveal us to the world as STUNNING. Stunning not by beauty standards but by having the power to STUN the enemy and make him flee due to how sealed and submitted we are in our self-worth that is found in Jesus.

My Prayer for You: I pray in the name of Jesus for your heart. I remove every seed of rejection, self-pity and comparison. I revoke the authority you have given to the enemy to crush you through comparison. I disrupt every distraction from God’s love currently within your life. I release you in Jesus name from sinfully coveting what is not in your possession and by the power invested in me I declare endurance and patience to see the fruitfulness that God will produce through your own life.

Your Turn: Father Lord Psalm 139:1 Says, O Lord you have searched me and known me. Father you made it your concern to search me and know me because I cannot be sought out or found in anyone else. I cannot be compared to another, I cannot be replaced and no one can express Your glory in the way that I can. Thank you Father that my worth is in You rather than my credentials and the qualities that I possess. I repent of comparison in Jesus name. I bar it from entering and possessing my life in any form. I focus my eyes on Jesus Christ alone. In Jesus name I pray, Amen

Please if you have a friend who you know will benefit from this. Please show them Christian or not. 

nia

 The Hush Series:  Secrets of a Christian Heart Disclosed 
This blog post is part of a new transparency series of blogs that I have launched, disclosing the sin throughout my walk with Jesus. Many people keep their flaws “hush hush”  once in Christ, but I desire for Christians to understand the power in transparency, that I’m not perfect and how grateful I am for grace!

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27 thoughts on “My Comparison Confession

  1. Hey Nia,
    I thank God for speaking through you via this post. Sometimes I fall into the comparison trap, but thank God I have been able to gradually break free of that.

    A portion of your post spoke to me – “God uniquely created your DNA and knit your frame in secret so He could surprise the world”.
    This has shown me that I am made to Manifest God’s glory in my own special way.

    Thank you for letting the Holy Spirit direct you to put this down. More grace to your elbow, sister.

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  2. Thank you nia, the thing is this thing was happening to me also and I didn’t even realise till now but I thank God for using you as a medium to expose it

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  3. A lot of men,need to ready this as well, it’s more of men problem than women.
    We are always comparing and tying to meet some rediculous standard,that’s what is fueling crime and the high suicide rate.

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  4. Thank you so much for this post Nia. I recently went through a period of comparison, with a fellow leader in my fellowship,and I would get so envious and jealous whenever I felt The Holy Spirit use that person, comparing myself, because we seem to have the same type of ministry, thank God the Holy Spirit led me to speak to the person concerning the issue and I’m freeee. Thank you and God bless you 🙏🏽

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  5. As a Severely rugged Phlegmatic, I easily brush thoughts(even responsibilities) aside and find comfort in my “it’s never that deep” mode. I used to think I’ll never be jealous of anybody, because I always justify with weak carnal facts why there’s no need to be better than them. The Jealousy still comes,resides and grows as I subconsciously compare myself with others. Mostly just chewing away at my psyche.

    Thanks for shedding light on the fact that God plans to surprise the world with me. Thus there’s the need to be better. I pray and believe I’ll be better..A better version of myself not better than someone I compare myself to.

    God Bless you and make your face shine for His work!

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  6. Thank you so much for sharing. I know one thing for sure. You have been delivered. I have an obsessive character, at times, so for me it’d be something natural to obsess over you and want to be like you. But that never once flooded me. Rather, I was more intrigued about how the Holy Spirit works in our lives to fulfil God’s ONE divine purpose. Holy Spirit used you to teach me just how God cannot be divided and how I cannot even begin to wish to have what you have because I know that the power you’re operating in, is the same power I live in and God’s purpose for me in His magnificent Kingdom will be revealed to me soon. Thank God for having helped you carry this “air” with you. It released us to worship God in the stage that we’re in! All Glory to the God of Lights!

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  7. Thanks so much for your honesty. I’ve been there too when it comes to being jealous. It left me with a horrible feeling inside. But when other women admitted being jealous of me, I could feel the bitterness. Best to deal with those feelings before God rather than poison others with them. So glad you listened to what God was telling you!

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  8. Thank you, Nia. When my twin sister told me about this, I was eager to read this post. I was blessed by it.
    Funny how she(My twin sister- Ruth) compares herself to you and criticizes your relationship all in a bid to cover up her admiration of you. Checking your instagram page for new post, I didn’t know that. Thank GOD for this post, its a timely one. She’s accepted your relationship and the fact that GOD is using you in an amazing way.
    Between you and me, she’s an amazing writer who has the LOVE of CHRIST in her.
    THANK GOD for this generation, May we rise up to our calling In JESUS NAME.

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  9. God bless you for sharing this. David rightly said ““Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!”
    ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭139:23-24‬ ‭ESV‬‬

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